A while back I decided to join eHarmony.com. Listening to their radio ads I learned I'd get a $40 personality profile free. I did get the personality profile, but I didn't elect to pay the $250 to join.
What eHarmony says about me --
You tend to dislike sudden or abrupt changes. You prefer things the way they are. Your motto might be: "If it's not broken, don't fix it."
You tend to be loyal to others. Your loyalty shows in a variety of ways including your "staying power" with relationships and activities.
Because of your lenient and complacent nature, others with fewer scruples may take advantage of you. You could, perhaps, benefit from greater assertiveness.
Others may perceive you as being undemonstrative and self-controlled. Not wanting to be the center of attention, you generally support others.
John interupts: So that's the problem! I've had a bunch of people tell me I was aloof and detatched... and I'm not! But I really like being the center of attention in the right circumstances.
Now, back to eHarmony...
You may demonstrate positive possessiveness by developing strong attachments; however, you will not be overly involved as some others tend to do.
You tend to be a traditionalist, and will enjoy the social environment best if it is stable and predictable. You dislike sudden decisions about where to go or what to do, preferring to think things out first.
You prefer a warm, friendly environment free of conflict and hostility. In that environment, you prefer reassurance of your involvement and self-worth.
You are a good friend and are always willing to help those you consider to be your friends. You also show strong ties, and will be uncomfortable when separated from your friends for an extended period.
John interupts again:
This may have been their first miscalculation. While I agree with the generosity part, some of my friends say I'm not good about maintaining relationships over the long term demanding, rather, that they keep the friendship alive.
Back to eHarmony again...
You have a communications style which many people are comfortable with almost immediately. You are sincere, a good listener, not pushy and overall a comfortable person to be near.
You tend to internalize conflict. As a result, if something about another is bothering you, you may bottle-up feelings and keep them inside.
In communicating with others, you may support the mainstream ideas rather than new trailblazing activities. You may prefer the stable and traditional activities.
Others will notice that you are a sincere person about what you say and do. This trait, along with the excellent listening skills, creates an individual whom most people find pleasant to be with and a calming type of person.
In your group, you may support the group leader rather than vie for a leadership position yourself. As a result, the group leader will usually appreciate the support you bring.
You are usually enthusiastic about activities and planning.
You are optimistic and tend to make others feel good about themselves.
You are socially poised and people-oriented.
You tend to work hard at making sure that other people are happy.
You tend to be a very calming influence in heated situations.
You are good at helping others people reach their goals.
You take pride in being very loyal to friends and family.
You have an excellent sense of humor and tend to see humor in events spontaneously.
You are a dependable and caring partner.
You are very supportive of other people.
What eHarmony says I may want --
You may want:
Opportunity to talk about your ideas and prove your skills.
To be seen as a leader.
Rewards for your ideas, and results for your actions.
Unusual, new or innovative activities.
An outlet to vent your emotions frequently.
A chance to be seen and heard--to work hard and play hard.
To show and prove your abilities through challenging activities.
Freedom to do what you want to do.
New challenges and problems to solve.
New and innovative things to do.
Independence from others occasionally.
To be measured by the results obtained, not by the manner in which those results were accomplished.
Is it all true --
Most of it is pretty accurate, I'd say. I'm impressed that it says such detailed things about me so accurately. Some aren't terribly flattering, but then I suppose that would have to be the case as I'm certainly not perfect.